Lastly, the sexual education perspective of the discourse of desire is very rare in U.
Some boys said that for them, the risks that may come from having sex were not as bad as the social risks that could come from remaining abstinent.
This, they said, made it easier for them to lose their virginity once they wanted to because they felt society had a more positive view on female virgins and that this may have made them sexually attractive.
These educators think that not talking about sexuality will decrease the rate of adolescent sexuality.
However, many girls engaged in sexual activity even if they did not desire it, in order to avoid what they think might place strains on their relationships.
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This process leaves young girls unassertive about their own sexual desires and needs because they focus so much on what other people expect of them rather than on what they feel inside.
Additionally, there is not much guidance on how boys should act within relationships and many boys do not know how to retain their masculinity while being authentic and reciprocating affection in their relationships.